Love in expression

Love is not just an emotion, but the very lifeline for any relationship to survive or get deeper.  There are some relations in which love is inherent and unquestionable, yet haven’t we seen some such beautiful relations fall apart or feel congested? There could be various personal reasons, but when the love is deep-rooted, would the differences even matter? Why would the love diminish for petty reasons? 

Infact, the petty issues are not the real reason in most cases.  Real love is much stronger those issues.  But, to keep that love strong enough and make it deeper, some effort is required.  Effort to express.  Each person has their own unique way of loving the other and love cannot be compared.  Similarly, between the lover and the loved, not all expectations will be met and it’s absolutely okay.  Yet, what is important is expression of love.  Love blossoms in expression. 

As a child, we are all pampered with the love of our parents and other elders.  As we grow up, though we get busy with our responsibilities, the child inside us still yearns for that pampering of love, though we may not be aware of it ourselves or express it clearly.  But whenever we get to experience that love from someone, we feel joy.

Expression of love needn’t be anything expensive or cinematic.  It could be by way of small gestures like a tight hug, a shoulder rest, holding the hands, stroking the hair, making the other lie down on the lap, some playful pranks, singing and dancing together, playing some games, a pat on the back, little surprises and anything that you feel would make the other happy.  My house is filled with love with the explosive laughter of my kids, whey they are tickled.  When my son was young, whenever he finds me upset due to his behaviour, immediately he will voluntarily come and hug me, and that will make me normal.  My skinny daughter will tolerate happily when her dad cuddles and squeezes her so tight to the extent her bones might bend.  Getting them their favourite sweet or snack, unasked for, keeps their smile and love blooming.

Love can also be expressed by showing the other that we care for them.  Simple questions about the other’s day, work, interests, hobbies, health, and even sleep can make the other feel loved.   I feel the love when my mother enquires about what I ate from miles away, over the phone.  I feel loved when my sister advises me on something for my good or when she forcefully takes me to a doctor for any health issue which I keep ignoring.

Love is the ointment for any negative emotion to heal.  Love becomes beautiful by letting the other know that we are there for them always, to give them the emotional support when needed, to be the confidante to share their feelings and to be a silent listener when that’s all they need. Everytime my kids are off the mood, a tight, silent, elongated hug with a whisper at the end, ‘Amma loves you’ is the cool-down mantra.

Growing in love happens through expression.  Unexpressed love, inspite of being pure, creates doubts and judgements in relationships.  Communication is again one form of expression. 

There is no formula for expression of love. Infact, love is the formula for life.  Express it through simplest of gestures or in more creative ways.  But, do express. Express often. Grow deeper and wider in love through expression.  Love beyond definitions. Love beyond boundaries. Yours lovingly…

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